They’re Not Better Than You — You Just Think They Are

The Illusion of “Better”

We often convince ourselves that others are better — prettier, smarter, more skilled, or more deserving. But the truth is, nobody is objectively better than you. What makes them appear better has nothing to do with them and everything to do with what you believe about yourself.

The Filter of Belief

When you think someone is competition, a threat, or simply “better,” it’s not about who they are. It’s about the filter through which your mind is viewing them. This filter comes from the belief, “I am not good enough.” Once this belief takes root, your mind starts looking for evidence to confirm it. Suddenly, you notice colleagues who seem smarter, strangers who appear prettier, or people who look more confident. But these qualities are magnified only by your self-perception, not by some objective truth.

Why Perceptions Differ

A person who feels like competition to you might not feel like competition to someone else. If they were truly better,everyone would see them the same way. But since perceptions vary, it proves that “better” is not fact — it’s a belief.

Beauty, Body, and Materials

This belief plays out in many areas:

• Beauty: Some people don’t fit traditional beauty standards, yet you still find them beautiful. That comes from their self-belief, not their features.

• Body Image: If you’re insecure about a body part, you’ll see others who have what you think you lack as “better.”

• Material Things: A Birkin bag isn’t inherently superior. But if you believe you don’t deserve abundance, anything expensive will feel “above you.”

It’s never the looks, the body, or the bag. It’s always the belief.

One Mind, Shared Perceptions

We are all connected, and thoughts and beliefs are constantly being transmitted. Sometimes what you perceive as someone being “better” is you picking up on their own self-perception and interpreting it through your filter of “not enough.” This creates an illusion of competition that exists only in your mind.

Breaking the Cycle

Many people get stuck in this cycle. They try to fix the feeling of “not enough” by chasing external changes — plastic surgery, overworking, or pursuing material success. But none of these will work until the internal belief changes.

Shifting the Belief

The way out is simple: shift the belief. Replace “I’m not good enough” with “I am more than enough.” Once you change the filter, the illusion breaks. That colleague stops feeling like a threat. The expensive bag loses its pedestal. The stranger you thought was prettier just becomes another person.

The Truth

If you think someone is better than you or will be chosen over you, understand this: it’s not because they are objectively better. It’s because you don’t yet believe that you are enough. The solution is not to compete with them, but to work on the belief within yourself.

Nobody is better than you. They never were. It was just your belief all along.

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This article is based on my original video: They aren’t better, your belief makes them appear better. If you’d like to watch the full video, you can check it out here.

And if you’re ready to work on shifting these limiting beliefs and start living from the truth that you are more than enough, I can help. Head over to my website to learn more about my coaching services.

Remember: nobody is above you — it’s only a belief. The moment you change that belief, your entire reality changes.